About Narsmel Caballero

I am Narsmel Fernandez Caballero, A Cosmic Space Holder, on a grounded level of reality I am also United States Registered Nurse and Philippine Registered Nurse USRN | PHRN

I am a Certified Mental Health Advocate. On a multidimensional level I consider myself as a space holder. Just to get an overview of what I AM passionate about or what I consider as mission to assist other people who are awakening to who they truly are, to hold a space for their unique life experience towards Self-Realization.

Per online definition and description, just to get a little mental image of what I love to do.

"Holding space, in essence, is a way of being in relationship with a group or individual. My role in the relationship, as the space holder, is to intentionally form an energetic “container” in which certain experiences can be had. Each person in the space brings in their own energy and presence, however if one person or more has the intention to hold space for the others, then the energy and presence of that person(s) will influence the experience for all others in the space.

The highest intention is to hold space for others so that they can have some kind of experience in that space, and you have a strong intention for how the space is to be formed and held, then your presence and energy gives shape to a container for others, and a unique type of relationship is formed between you and those you are holding space for.

Think of a held space as an intentionally created energetic container or “cocoon” in which those people holding that intention are generating an energetic signature powerful enough to from and infuse that space.

The intention for the held space matters. A held space is formed when the person holding the space has the intention and desire to be a companion for others, to companion them through whatever experience they are having or need to have. The intention of a held space is not to help the person fix their problems or resolve their issues — it’s to simply form a companionship relationship, where you create a space in which they can attend to whatever is arising for themselves that is in need of attention without anything “needing” to happen.

A held space can then be a healing space, a loving space, a compassionate space, a nurturing space, a peaceful space, a space of potentiality, a creative space, a learning space…whatever the intention is of those who are holding space as they relate to those they are holding space for.

What a held space is not is a directed space, where your agenda or your needs or your ‘wants’ for yourself or other people come into it. If your agenda is anything other than the intention to hold space in a loving, compassionate, open-minded, accepting, allowing way, then you are no longer holding space.

A held space is responsive to the needs of those in the space. This is where the space holder becomes discerning of those needs and energetically aligns to them. For example, if the person for whom space is being held is grieving for a loss of a loved one, then it helps that the space holder recognize this and align the energy they are holding to match the need of those in grief—which may be to have a place in which they can openly express their pain and sorrow and not be judged for it or asked to close it down.

This is the art of discernment that space holders must learn.

A held space feels spacious. It feels like a place in which any thing can happen and all is allowed. It is a place that is free of judgment because space does not judge, it simply holds all within it. The space has no need for anything to happen, and yet there is the recognition that in the space anything can happen. And whatever happens is trusted — for whatever reason, that is what needed to happen.

To be an effective space holder you will have to cultivate the quality of spaciousness. You will have to be allowing so that people can be as they are with you, warts and all. You have to be open-minded and open-hearted, so that people feel safe with you. You have to be trusting, so that you do not shut down what wants or needs to happen, whether it’s pretty or not, whether you understand it or not.

You have learn to release your agenda, because your agenda, while it may come from care, is ineffective for a space holder. Agendas get in the way, because they are born of your wants and needs, not of what the others are necessarily needing or asking for.

The principles of holding space remain—you need to become ‘the presence that transforms.’ Your own energetic signature, your own level of consciousness, is the key.

The most powerful space you can hold is woven of the consciousness of Love. It is one in which you, the space holder are a “loving presence.” People heal in the presence of love, naturally and organically, when they open themselves to what love has to offer. Love has no need for people to be a certain way, no need for a certain outcome, no desire to be recognized as ‘great’ or ‘valuable’ or ‘effective’. Love simply is, and in its is-ness all is possible.